Bullying Lesson Guidelines
SIM MEH Bullying Lesson: Teaching Guidelines May 2017
Alongside the many examples of exemplary behaviour exhibited by our students on a weekly basis, from time to time we have also witnessed the following behaviour from our students which requires our attention:
- Name calling
- Racial / Ethnic abuse
- Exclusion from group activity
The Madressa operates a zero-tolerance approach on bullying, but furthermore our faith invites us to unite and to resist actions that will divide us – see appendix 1, 2 & 3 for a selection of verses from the Quran supporting the Madressa’s vision for a strong, cohesive and united community.
On Sunday 21st May 2017, we would like all MEH staff in all classes to impart a minimum of a 15-minute lesson on bullying type behaviours as outlined above. The lesson should encompass:
- the nature of a bully
- the perspective of the victim
- the importance of the bystander
This does not need to be extensive at this stage as we are only looking to introduce and inform our students that we want them to be conscious of the impact this behaviour has on themselves and others.
Please see the following resources to help you plan for your lesson, but feel free to use other age and Madressa appropriate materials:
- https://www.tes.com/teaching-resource/anti-bullying-and-conflict-resolution-lesson-plans-and-resources-6011130 (requires user login with google or registration but has excellent resources)
- Anti-Bullying Powerpoint
- 'How can we stop Bullying?' Powerpoint
Verbal bullying activity
On a piece of paper, ask children to draw a heart and cut it out, colour it and make it attractive (if you dont have scissors and such resources then just get them to draw it). Get them to observe how smooth and clear the heart is. Then ask them to write something someone had said to them that had hurt their feelings (be prepared for some offensive language and remind children that they will not say out loud these words). Next, ask them to crumple their hearts and explain that is the effect of mean words on our hearts - even when you unfold and straighten the heart, the creases will always remain. So we should be careful not to be the ones to put a crease on someone's heart.
You can also register for free with TES to get more resources for both primary and secondary age groups https://www.tes.com
The Madressa will enable a student email address where students can email anonymously to report acts of bullying they have witnessed or to request support. This email is . All queries will be dealt with confidentially.
We are also looking at having boxes in various locations on site for students to provide details of issues concerning them.
Queries / Concerns
If there are any queries or concerns, please contact your head of department in the first instance or your year group co-ordinator on the respective gents & ladies side.
[Pooya/Ali Commentary 49:13] This is addressed to all mankind and not to the Muslims only, though it is understood that in a perfect world the two would be synonymous. All races of men, white, brown and black are His creation. Allah has made them to vary in colour, language and mode of life, and has placed them in different lands, but before Him they are all one and cherished by Him alike, and he is most honoured who is most righteous.
The Holy Prophet said: "Do not take pride in superior birth, tribe or nation."
It is reported that a Muslim bought a slave who appealed to the people gathered in the auction square that he who was ready to allow him to pray behind the Holy Prophet should buy him, and the slave was always in the rows formed behind the Holy Prophet. After a few days the Holy Prophet noticed his absence. He went to his place. He was sick. After three days he died. The Holy Prophet personally attended to his funeral rites, bathed him, gave him a shroud and buried him. When mahajirs and ansar showed signs of astonishment this verse was revealed.
It is said that once the disciples of Isa asked him as to who was to be considered as superior among men. Isa took a handful of dust in his hand and said: "All man are from the dust and they shall return to dust. In the eyes of God he is most honoured who is most righteous."
This verse renders null and void all distinctions based on race, colour, caste and social position. Taqwa (obedience to Allah and His laws) is the only criterion for superiority or honour.
The Holy Prophet said: "No man is superior to another on account of race or colour, taqwa (wisdom and piety) alone is the distinction."
In this way man finds his individual as well as collective freedom, material progress and spiritual happiness, peace and order in Islam.
[Pooya/Ali Commentary 49:11] Mutual ridicule ceases to be fun when there is arrogance or selfishness or malice or contempt behind it. We may laugh with people, but we must never laugh at people to disgrace or dishonour them.
Defamation may consist in speaking ill of others by the spoken or written word, or in acting in such a way as to suggest a charge. A biting remark or taunt or sarcasm is included in the word lamaza. An offensive nickname may amount to defamation.
Ammar, Bilal, Suhayl, Salman and Habib were used to be ridiculed by the people of Bani Tamim for their not having sufficient means of livelihood. A-isha used to hold Ummi Salimah in contempt because she had no adornments. Once A-isha and Hafsa laughed at Safiyah in contempt to remind her that she was the daughter of a Jew.
The Holy Prophet asked Safiyah to say: "Yes, My father was Harun and my uncle was Musa, the messengers of Allah, and my husband the last Prophet of Allah."
[Pooya/Ali Commentary 49:10] However different the Muslims may be in race, colour and worldly possessions, they are brothers in faith. This is humanisation in the best sense of the word. Muslim brotherhood is the greatest social ideal known to human society. All the forms of worship (of Allah) prescribed by Islam-salat, hajj etcetera-bring them together in one brotherhood. Whatever be his race, colour or antecedents, every Muslim is received into the brotherhood of believers, and takes his place as an equal among equals.
The Holy Prophet said: "None of you have faith until he desires for his brother what he desires for himself. Attend to the sick among your brothers; go at least two miles with the funeral of a believer; accept invitation of your brother in faith; keep your regular contact with the believers wherever they are; remove their distress; deliver them from oppression."